Frustrated With Trying To Get Your Ex Back

By Rhonda Lassiter


Do you feel like your ex boyfriend is being a bad little boy? Is he throwing a temper tantrum and refusing to talk to you?

Are you trying to repair your relationship and get back together but he refuses to listen to anything that you have to say? What can you do to make him listen to reason and make him see that you love him and want to spend the rest of your life with him?

Sometimes, trying to get back together with your ex is like trying to herd cats. No matter how hard you try and how well meaning your intentions might be, your ex goes in a different direction and they simply don't see the big picture. No matter what tactic you try, conversations and meanings become weapons used against you. There is a reason behind this and there is something that you can do to turn things around.

Now, what would you do if you saw a little boy that was throwing a fit? What would be most effective in circumventing that behavior? Punishing him or giving him a stern talking to rarely works. This will only make him more angry and beligerent. Rewarding bad behavior or giving him some sort of a treat won't be apprecaited so being nice to him isn't going to work. Even acknowledging his poor behavior only reinforces that behavior.

To end his temper tantrum the best thing that you can do is to ignore it and go about your business. A wise parent keeps calm and either sends a child to their room or to sit somewhere so they can wind down and realise that their bad behavior isn't getting them the reaction that they were hoping for. Then, a really smart parent will begin doing something interesting to get that child's attention. Once the child is done being bad, they will come to the parent and want to be part of the interesting activity.

Likewise, if you ignore your ex-boyfriend for a while, go about your business and start doing interesting things, he will want to be a part of your life again. There is nothing that you can say to him right now that's going to make a bit of difference. No amount of logic is going to make him want to be a part of your life. He is throwing a tantrum and he's not thinking logically. He will calm down all on his own and if your life and what you are doing is interesting he will want to be a part of it.

Sometimes it might take a week or two for your ex boyfriend to calm down. This is good because you're going to have to think of something that you can plan or do that would be interesting to him. Maybe you can take up a new hobby or go away for a weekend. Start attending classes at your local community college. Do something to make him wonder what you're up to, where you're going and who you're spending time with. Once he's done with his little temper tantrum he'll seek you out to find out what you're up to. He will see that your life is interesting and fun without him in it and he'll want to become a part of it.

Even though this is only a rough outline of a succcessful plan to get your ex boyfriend back, understanding male psychology and using it to change his mind is the only way to go. Talking about the problems in the relationship rarely works and those methods will never change his mind. Only by creating a life that he would want to be part of will change his heart and make him fall in love with you again. Try it and see what kind of results you get. Getting your ex boyfriend back doesn't have to be difficult.




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