Imagine that you have dated a very special person to you for a few months and you assume that he feels the same soul mate type connection that you do. Then you bring up the question about the future of your relationship and he stalls and says nothing. You feel as though you have brought up a taboo subject because he's pulled back. You wonder if he will ever be ready to do the big 'c' word.
Men are heavily influenced by your acceptance or rejection and he wasn't anticipating you to be the one to bring commitment up. He might be the type who just hasn't thought about it yet or hasn't opened up to you even though he has been thinking about it for quite some time. He doesn't know if you will accept or reject him which could be the main cause of the reason for him not bringing it up. Below are some tips that will help you put that magical spell on him to take the relationship to the next step.
1. Timing is everything - If you are going to bring up "forever" doing it while driving, watching television or online is probably not going to be conducive to getting the response you want. Pick a quiet moment when there are no distractions, no schedules or time frames, just the two of you and ask him why the two of you can't be like this forever.
2. Be aware of your body language - Nothing tells all like bad body language. Your body language has so much information in it that you may not be aware of. Folded arms across your chest suggests 'closed' and defensive.
3. The truth can set you (both) free - So the topic of commitment has come up and it seems to be a sticking point in what had been a promising relationship. What is needed is for the two of you to share, truthfully, your feelings on the topic. Here is where you may discover why he fears to give himself totally to the relationship. It may well be his own fear that you would reject him or something in his past. If so, you have the opportunity to support and nurture him and, in turn, can receive that which your heart desires.
4. Your quest is important - Even if he lets you know that maybe the timing is just off right now or that he isn't really emotionally ready yet to commit, this is when you have the opportunity to decide if you want to continue on and wait, or end it.
Making a decision to commit yourself, heart and soul, to another person can be the most magical thing a person can do. Yet the process is not magic but merely the art of using your own senses and feelings to navigate the uncertain waters of romance to the blissful shores of forever.
Men are heavily influenced by your acceptance or rejection and he wasn't anticipating you to be the one to bring commitment up. He might be the type who just hasn't thought about it yet or hasn't opened up to you even though he has been thinking about it for quite some time. He doesn't know if you will accept or reject him which could be the main cause of the reason for him not bringing it up. Below are some tips that will help you put that magical spell on him to take the relationship to the next step.
1. Timing is everything - If you are going to bring up "forever" doing it while driving, watching television or online is probably not going to be conducive to getting the response you want. Pick a quiet moment when there are no distractions, no schedules or time frames, just the two of you and ask him why the two of you can't be like this forever.
2. Be aware of your body language - Nothing tells all like bad body language. Your body language has so much information in it that you may not be aware of. Folded arms across your chest suggests 'closed' and defensive.
3. The truth can set you (both) free - So the topic of commitment has come up and it seems to be a sticking point in what had been a promising relationship. What is needed is for the two of you to share, truthfully, your feelings on the topic. Here is where you may discover why he fears to give himself totally to the relationship. It may well be his own fear that you would reject him or something in his past. If so, you have the opportunity to support and nurture him and, in turn, can receive that which your heart desires.
4. Your quest is important - Even if he lets you know that maybe the timing is just off right now or that he isn't really emotionally ready yet to commit, this is when you have the opportunity to decide if you want to continue on and wait, or end it.
Making a decision to commit yourself, heart and soul, to another person can be the most magical thing a person can do. Yet the process is not magic but merely the art of using your own senses and feelings to navigate the uncertain waters of romance to the blissful shores of forever.
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A great love relationship is the most satisfying thing we do in a lifetime. Check out Lou's new book The RuneChest available at Amazon.
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