The Initial Approach is perhaps the most challenging and arguably the most crucial part of interacting with a brand-new woman. The manner in which you open a woman will either get you in the door to initiate your game or it will get you a fat rejection. If you have a bad opening, you will never be able to approach women effectively.
The first thing you should do if you want to approach women successfully is to work on your looks, work on your confidence, handle your approach anxiety, and then learn how to successfully open women. The opening is not really complicated nor is it hard to pull off. There is basically only two major things you have to worry about. It's just that you have to get over your approach anxiety and actually APPROACH women.
1) Always have something ready to say
A beautiful woman and even a semi-attractive woman was flirted and hit on many times before you came. Most of those losers had bad to marginal opening lines and probably resorted to "it sure is crowded in here" or "that's a nice phone." kind of uninteresting drivel. You have to distance yourself from the hundreds of losers she has rejected and demonstrate high value by being witty, intriguing, and/or different (in a good way).
Since you're about to puke just overcoming approach anxiety and actually cold approach a girl, it is best to have a couple of canned openers that has actually been frequently tested with girls and is proven to work. Most of the cheesy pickup lines smell bad and make you look silly and totally desperate, so stay away from the "did you fall from heaven?" types and choose some imaginative, natural sounding ones.
The book "Mating Intelligence Unleashed" says that most women prefer an indirect approach over a direct approach so pick a couple of indirect openers, memorize it, and practice, practice, practice. I find the opinion asking ones to be very natural, fluid, and girls respond well to them.
2) Body language and presentation
Remember, 55% of communication is visual (body language, eye contact), 38% is vocal (pitch, speed, volume, tone of voice), and 7% is actual words. This means that what you say is just garnish to how you say it or how you present yourself when you say it.
Smile on the approach! A smile will disarm, de-guard, and de-bitch any woman and it will create a more friendly setting. You also need to keep strong eye contact. Strong eye contact, coupled with a lower voice tonality and slower speech patterns, can speed up comfort, attraction, and trust.
Project negative body language! This means to position the front of your body away from her and just turn your head towards her. Only when she qualifies herself (i.e. says something witty/sexy), turn your body towards her. This might seem anti-intuitive but it works and is based upon sound attraction psychology. By projecting negative body language, you are revealing you do not need her attention or approval and you demonstrate high value by not coming off as needy or desperate.
At the same time you will need to show confident, alpha male body language: chest out, shoulders back. If you have no idea how you can show confident hands, just hang it by your side, or animate it by talking with them.
That's it. From here you can:
Include some time constraint methods such as, "I have just got a minute because I'm meeting my buddies, however I have to say..." or "Another thing before I go ..." and grab their number.
Shift into A2 phase which is where you hook them by showing off your high value with such things as story telling, gimmicks, magic demonstrations, psychic readings, negging (veiled teasing), leading the conversation, etc...
The first thing you should do if you want to approach women successfully is to work on your looks, work on your confidence, handle your approach anxiety, and then learn how to successfully open women. The opening is not really complicated nor is it hard to pull off. There is basically only two major things you have to worry about. It's just that you have to get over your approach anxiety and actually APPROACH women.
1) Always have something ready to say
A beautiful woman and even a semi-attractive woman was flirted and hit on many times before you came. Most of those losers had bad to marginal opening lines and probably resorted to "it sure is crowded in here" or "that's a nice phone." kind of uninteresting drivel. You have to distance yourself from the hundreds of losers she has rejected and demonstrate high value by being witty, intriguing, and/or different (in a good way).
Since you're about to puke just overcoming approach anxiety and actually cold approach a girl, it is best to have a couple of canned openers that has actually been frequently tested with girls and is proven to work. Most of the cheesy pickup lines smell bad and make you look silly and totally desperate, so stay away from the "did you fall from heaven?" types and choose some imaginative, natural sounding ones.
The book "Mating Intelligence Unleashed" says that most women prefer an indirect approach over a direct approach so pick a couple of indirect openers, memorize it, and practice, practice, practice. I find the opinion asking ones to be very natural, fluid, and girls respond well to them.
2) Body language and presentation
Remember, 55% of communication is visual (body language, eye contact), 38% is vocal (pitch, speed, volume, tone of voice), and 7% is actual words. This means that what you say is just garnish to how you say it or how you present yourself when you say it.
Smile on the approach! A smile will disarm, de-guard, and de-bitch any woman and it will create a more friendly setting. You also need to keep strong eye contact. Strong eye contact, coupled with a lower voice tonality and slower speech patterns, can speed up comfort, attraction, and trust.
Project negative body language! This means to position the front of your body away from her and just turn your head towards her. Only when she qualifies herself (i.e. says something witty/sexy), turn your body towards her. This might seem anti-intuitive but it works and is based upon sound attraction psychology. By projecting negative body language, you are revealing you do not need her attention or approval and you demonstrate high value by not coming off as needy or desperate.
At the same time you will need to show confident, alpha male body language: chest out, shoulders back. If you have no idea how you can show confident hands, just hang it by your side, or animate it by talking with them.
That's it. From here you can:
Include some time constraint methods such as, "I have just got a minute because I'm meeting my buddies, however I have to say..." or "Another thing before I go ..." and grab their number.
Shift into A2 phase which is where you hook them by showing off your high value with such things as story telling, gimmicks, magic demonstrations, psychic readings, negging (veiled teasing), leading the conversation, etc...
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