Wanting to get back together with your ex girlfriend or your wife is a simple issue of mind over matter. You will find that your attitude has more to do with your success in your relationship with the woman of your dreams than anything else. While a woman might hear your words fine, she will judge you by your actions. You goal should be to show her with your actions that you are strong, fun to be around and the best man for her. You are confident and you need to instill a feeling of security in her when she is with you.
Most guys make the mistake of falling apart when their girlfriend or wife leaves them. Chances are that she was thinking about breaking up with you for some time before she had the courage to actually end the relationship. Perhaps you gave her a reason to leave. The reason probably wasn't what she told you it was. The reason that she left has more to do with a lack of respect for you as a man than anything she told you before she left you. It's your job now to show her that you're a man. This means no crying, begging or pleading for a second chance. This means that you can not tell her that you love her until she tells you that she loves you first. This means no contacting her or annoying her with requests to talk or see each other until you have your life straightened out and you are strong again.
In life, attitude is everything. This is especially true with women. It is often said that in order to make a woman fall in love with a man he must have an attitude that shows that he is willing to walk away. For instance, if your girlfriend or wife is accustomed to yelling at you or treating you poorly and you simply stand there and take it, changing your attitude and being willing to literally walk away from her will change her perception of you as a man. Literally turn away from her, tell her that you have no desire to listen to her anymore and walk away. You will probably be shocked when she comes after you and apologizes. Don't worry if she doesn't do this immediately. Be sure that her attitude towards you will change though. She will have a renewed respect for you and how she thinks of you will begin to change if you are willing to stand up for yourself.
Being cool and calm in the face of adversity and reigning in your emotions is important. Resist the temptation to argue with her or show any sign that you're still upset about the break up. Your new attitude must be positive and optimistic. Your new life is filled with possibilities. You are happy and looking forward to what life has in store for you. You are in the process of rebuilding your life. You have a direction and you have goals and dreams for what you wish to accomplish in life. You might even feel happy about the freedom that this break up has given you. No matter what, you are happy because women find men that are happy and optimistic about life very attractive. If you find yourself confronted with negative emotions or you become upset over something, remember that you must be happy at all costs. If you feel completely overwhelmed, find a place where you can be alone for five minutes to regain your composure. Tell yourself that things will change and that your life is getting better and better all the time. Remind yourself that you must appear happy and in control at all times. Men are capable of such strength and you are a real man.
Regaining control in your relationship is very important. Many women will test you or attempt to control everything in the relationship. Was your ex this way when you were together? Does she still try to control things in your life by making suggestions or injecting her thoughts on all aspects of your life? This is why a woman will ask a man to make a decision about what restaurant they should go to and then get upset when he says that he doesn't care. She wants you to take control and make the decisions and she will lose respect for you when you give up that control. To remedy this situation, don't allow her to make decisions in your life. If she tries to decide where you will meet, make alternate plans simply to overturn her decision and take control of the situation. Don't worry if she becomes upset or angry. Taking control back from a woman can be frustrating for her but it is what she needs. She will rebel but her temper tantrum will pass quickly and eventually you will see that she respects you more and becomes more submissive to your suggestions. She will look to you for guidance and this is the path to getting back together with her.
Confidence is a very important trait in a man. Women love a man that is confident and sure of himself. This confidence can be seen in his body language, his tone of voice as well as the look on his face. A real man doesn't worry about anything and he knows that things will work out for him. If you were formerly worried about everything, scared that bad things were going to happen or if you lacked the self-confidence to do even the simplest things, it's time to change that. Do whatever you need to do to build your self-confidence. Positive self-talk and telling yourself that you are strong, confident and awesome are a step in the right direction. When she sees you next, you want her to notice that you don't have a care in the world. You're free and confident about your place in this world. You're not worried about getting her back. Even if she is with another man, you know inside that it isn't going to last. She will regret her decision to leave you and she will be coming back to you because you're confident.
Being in love isn't easy. Often genuinely nice guys make the mistake of thinking that by treating a woman well and doing everything that she asks, she will fall in love with us. We want to show our love by putting her first. We care for her more than we do our own body. For us, this equals true love. For a woman, instinctively, this is a sign of weakness. Putting yourself first and being strong is the only way to regain the respect and love that the woman of your dreams had for you. Avoid the temptation to go back to groveling or begging her for another chance. Push forward and understand that you have nothing to lose by standing up for yourself in a passive-aggressive manner. You don't have to be mean. You don't have to argue with her. You simply have to be the man that she loves and respects. Be happy and full of optimism and things will begin to change. Her feelings for you will begin to change. She will wonder what is going on with you. She will become curious and soon you will find that she has a renewed respect and love for you. You are worthy of being loved and respected and you will get your ex girlfriend or wife back.
Most guys make the mistake of falling apart when their girlfriend or wife leaves them. Chances are that she was thinking about breaking up with you for some time before she had the courage to actually end the relationship. Perhaps you gave her a reason to leave. The reason probably wasn't what she told you it was. The reason that she left has more to do with a lack of respect for you as a man than anything she told you before she left you. It's your job now to show her that you're a man. This means no crying, begging or pleading for a second chance. This means that you can not tell her that you love her until she tells you that she loves you first. This means no contacting her or annoying her with requests to talk or see each other until you have your life straightened out and you are strong again.
In life, attitude is everything. This is especially true with women. It is often said that in order to make a woman fall in love with a man he must have an attitude that shows that he is willing to walk away. For instance, if your girlfriend or wife is accustomed to yelling at you or treating you poorly and you simply stand there and take it, changing your attitude and being willing to literally walk away from her will change her perception of you as a man. Literally turn away from her, tell her that you have no desire to listen to her anymore and walk away. You will probably be shocked when she comes after you and apologizes. Don't worry if she doesn't do this immediately. Be sure that her attitude towards you will change though. She will have a renewed respect for you and how she thinks of you will begin to change if you are willing to stand up for yourself.
Being cool and calm in the face of adversity and reigning in your emotions is important. Resist the temptation to argue with her or show any sign that you're still upset about the break up. Your new attitude must be positive and optimistic. Your new life is filled with possibilities. You are happy and looking forward to what life has in store for you. You are in the process of rebuilding your life. You have a direction and you have goals and dreams for what you wish to accomplish in life. You might even feel happy about the freedom that this break up has given you. No matter what, you are happy because women find men that are happy and optimistic about life very attractive. If you find yourself confronted with negative emotions or you become upset over something, remember that you must be happy at all costs. If you feel completely overwhelmed, find a place where you can be alone for five minutes to regain your composure. Tell yourself that things will change and that your life is getting better and better all the time. Remind yourself that you must appear happy and in control at all times. Men are capable of such strength and you are a real man.
Regaining control in your relationship is very important. Many women will test you or attempt to control everything in the relationship. Was your ex this way when you were together? Does she still try to control things in your life by making suggestions or injecting her thoughts on all aspects of your life? This is why a woman will ask a man to make a decision about what restaurant they should go to and then get upset when he says that he doesn't care. She wants you to take control and make the decisions and she will lose respect for you when you give up that control. To remedy this situation, don't allow her to make decisions in your life. If she tries to decide where you will meet, make alternate plans simply to overturn her decision and take control of the situation. Don't worry if she becomes upset or angry. Taking control back from a woman can be frustrating for her but it is what she needs. She will rebel but her temper tantrum will pass quickly and eventually you will see that she respects you more and becomes more submissive to your suggestions. She will look to you for guidance and this is the path to getting back together with her.
Confidence is a very important trait in a man. Women love a man that is confident and sure of himself. This confidence can be seen in his body language, his tone of voice as well as the look on his face. A real man doesn't worry about anything and he knows that things will work out for him. If you were formerly worried about everything, scared that bad things were going to happen or if you lacked the self-confidence to do even the simplest things, it's time to change that. Do whatever you need to do to build your self-confidence. Positive self-talk and telling yourself that you are strong, confident and awesome are a step in the right direction. When she sees you next, you want her to notice that you don't have a care in the world. You're free and confident about your place in this world. You're not worried about getting her back. Even if she is with another man, you know inside that it isn't going to last. She will regret her decision to leave you and she will be coming back to you because you're confident.
Being in love isn't easy. Often genuinely nice guys make the mistake of thinking that by treating a woman well and doing everything that she asks, she will fall in love with us. We want to show our love by putting her first. We care for her more than we do our own body. For us, this equals true love. For a woman, instinctively, this is a sign of weakness. Putting yourself first and being strong is the only way to regain the respect and love that the woman of your dreams had for you. Avoid the temptation to go back to groveling or begging her for another chance. Push forward and understand that you have nothing to lose by standing up for yourself in a passive-aggressive manner. You don't have to be mean. You don't have to argue with her. You simply have to be the man that she loves and respects. Be happy and full of optimism and things will begin to change. Her feelings for you will begin to change. She will wonder what is going on with you. She will become curious and soon you will find that she has a renewed respect and love for you. You are worthy of being loved and respected and you will get your ex girlfriend or wife back.
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