Bullying is a problem that is all round us. Most of us have faced off with a bully at one point or the other. Bullying may be defined as the habitual use of any form of aggression with the aim of gaining power over another person. There is, in addition, the use of threats, abuse, coercion and intimidation. A bully targets a specific target that they deem to be vulnerable in a particular area. Some of the criteria that may be used for discrimination include gender, class, religion, body size, age and so on. There are a number of things that you need to understand if you wish to deal with bullying.
This undesirable behavior can be in divided into 3 forms; emotional, verbal and physical abuse. Emotional and verbal abuse are forms of insults and intimidation while physical abuse is hands on. The pattern of abuse is almost similar in both females and males when both victim and perpetrator are adults who would rather have it the verbal and emotional way. This is because physical violence tends to paint a bad image in public and perpetrators would rather avoid it. Physical abuse may also be avoided when the target appears stronger than the perpetrator. However, in majority of cases, females are usually non physical.
The vice may be classified as either indirect (social aggression) or direct. The aim of bullies in the indirect form is to make the victim feel lonely. They do this by gossiping about the target, laughing at them, calling them names and even staring at them. Direct bullies openly take advantage of individuals by pushing and pulling, shoving, biting, and pinching among others
So what do bullies stand to gain by hurting other people? That is the big question. The common denominator in a majority of the bullies is the low self-esteem among them. By acting aggressively towards other people, they conceal their weaknesses; it makes them feel better about themselves. The other reason for this aggression is jealousy. Some perpetrators simply are not happy about the success of their victim.
One of the other common causes of this undesirable behaviour is a personality disorder. The common forms of personalities seen are temperamental, obsessive or an excessive concern about a self-image. If they are of school attending age, they usually perform rather poorly compared to their colleagues. Within a social group, they want to be regarded with fear and respect.
In the long run, victims fall into depression, loneliness and hopelessness. These feelings may develop in to post traumatic stress disorder. Some grow up into violent people who have so much bitterness from past experiences. On the other hand, the constant abuse may help victims learn to stand up for themselves.
To cope with bullying, training programs have been set up for guardians, teachers and parents. Such programs may include peer counselling and forming school bullying policies. The state can also be involved in creating laws that restrict people from abusing others.
Victims can deal with bullying but taking the challenge heads on. They need to face their opponent with confidence and a positive attitude. This way, they end up gaining respect and admiration of not only the bullies but also the immediate onlookers.
This undesirable behavior can be in divided into 3 forms; emotional, verbal and physical abuse. Emotional and verbal abuse are forms of insults and intimidation while physical abuse is hands on. The pattern of abuse is almost similar in both females and males when both victim and perpetrator are adults who would rather have it the verbal and emotional way. This is because physical violence tends to paint a bad image in public and perpetrators would rather avoid it. Physical abuse may also be avoided when the target appears stronger than the perpetrator. However, in majority of cases, females are usually non physical.
The vice may be classified as either indirect (social aggression) or direct. The aim of bullies in the indirect form is to make the victim feel lonely. They do this by gossiping about the target, laughing at them, calling them names and even staring at them. Direct bullies openly take advantage of individuals by pushing and pulling, shoving, biting, and pinching among others
So what do bullies stand to gain by hurting other people? That is the big question. The common denominator in a majority of the bullies is the low self-esteem among them. By acting aggressively towards other people, they conceal their weaknesses; it makes them feel better about themselves. The other reason for this aggression is jealousy. Some perpetrators simply are not happy about the success of their victim.
One of the other common causes of this undesirable behaviour is a personality disorder. The common forms of personalities seen are temperamental, obsessive or an excessive concern about a self-image. If they are of school attending age, they usually perform rather poorly compared to their colleagues. Within a social group, they want to be regarded with fear and respect.
In the long run, victims fall into depression, loneliness and hopelessness. These feelings may develop in to post traumatic stress disorder. Some grow up into violent people who have so much bitterness from past experiences. On the other hand, the constant abuse may help victims learn to stand up for themselves.
To cope with bullying, training programs have been set up for guardians, teachers and parents. Such programs may include peer counselling and forming school bullying policies. The state can also be involved in creating laws that restrict people from abusing others.
Victims can deal with bullying but taking the challenge heads on. They need to face their opponent with confidence and a positive attitude. This way, they end up gaining respect and admiration of not only the bullies but also the immediate onlookers.
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