Your desire to get back together with your ex-girlfriend or wife is very normal. The loss of someone that you care about in your life can be devastating. If your ex was a part of your life every day then you might be feeling a little lost and lonely. The rejection from the breakup has taken a toll on your ego, your self-esteem and your confidence. While you search for a solution and wait for your ex to come back, it is important that you remain cool and calm. When it comes to your relationship, your attitude has everything to do with your success.
While you might want to try all the typical methods to win your girlfriend or wife back, without attraction and desire on her part, your attempts will be fruitless. If you have already tried to convince her to come back to you then you have probably done some damage. If you have been highly emotional or even begged her to give you another chance, this can be overcome. Don't worry. It is important that you allow her to come to you, though. This means that you shouldn't be contacting your ex until you have your confidence back. Typically, a good rule of thumb is that you shouldn't contact your ex until the day comes when you no longer feel the urge to contact her.
From here on out, you're going to work on your attitude. The attitude that works best when trying to attract your ex back or any woman, for that matter, is one of self-respect and indifference. You must prepare yourself and be willing to literally walk away at the first sign of disrespect coming from her. The moment you start to feel that she is laughing at you, belittling you or disrespecting you, you're going to leave the situation. You're not going to react or become angry. You're simply going to terminate communicating with her. This new found attitude will be seen in your actions, your words as well as how you carry yourself from here on out in life.
Along with this new attitude you need to put any thought out of your mind that concerns how she will react to your new attitude. It's going to be a little shocking for her, that's for sure. If she is accustomed to yelling at you or calling you names, she is accustomed to holding all the power in the relationship. If, in the past, you stood there and took this abuse or if you tried to argue with her or explain yourself, those days are through. From now on, you will remind her that she is not your partner, girlfriend or wife. She relinquished that title and the right to state her opinion about anything when she left you. You will turn and literally walk away from the conversation and take that power with you. She will do one of two things. She will either come after you immediately and apologize or she will think about what just happened for a while. She will then have gained some respect for you as a man and the process of falling in love with you will begin.
If you have been upset since your breakup there might be a chance that your ex has seen you cry. She might know that you're depressed about the breakup. In the future, you're not going to let your ex know anything about your life other than the fact that you are happy, loving life and ready to move on without her, if necessary. Without a word, you are rebuilding your life. You are happy and you have things that you want to do with your life as well as the strength to achieve these goals. Instead of holding onto that depressed personality and being sad about your breakup, you are happy with life and you're living life to the best of your ability.
Push aside any fear that you might have that your ex will be upset by your new persona. You may think that you need to be sad or depressed so your ex will know that you miss them. You might fear that being happy would somehow tell your ex that you don't love her anymore. You are not in control of what she thinks and it might be a good thing is she worries that you are moving on without her. If she wants to know, she can ask you. You have a life to live and you can't be expected to sit around like a hurt puppy waiting for her to come back into your life so you can live. Your world doesn't revolve around her anymore. Your world revolves around you and your dreams.
While you're waiting for your girlfriend or wife to come back to you, this is your time to shine. This is your time to not only rebuild your life but build the kind of life that you dream about. You have a choice. You can waste precious days, weeks or months being upset, sad and lonely or you can make plans for what you wish to accomplish with your life. Make a list of your dreams and goals. Think big and don't hold anything back. Your breakup might be the best thing that ever happened to you. You get a fresh start on life. Whether your girlfriend or wife wants to be a part of it is up to her but who wouldn't want to be a part of the life that you are creating?
Change your attitude and you can change your life. Change your attitude and you will begin to see changes in your ex. Push aside the fear of what your ex is going to think or do and start living your life for yourself. Make yourself happy and your ex will be drawn to you in a way that they may have never been attracted to you before. You are a man on a mission and it's up to you who enjoys this journey with you. Your ex should consider herself lucky that you still love her. She will understand one day soon. She will see the real you and want to come back to you. It could happen at any time so be prepared for her to come back when you least expect it.
While you might want to try all the typical methods to win your girlfriend or wife back, without attraction and desire on her part, your attempts will be fruitless. If you have already tried to convince her to come back to you then you have probably done some damage. If you have been highly emotional or even begged her to give you another chance, this can be overcome. Don't worry. It is important that you allow her to come to you, though. This means that you shouldn't be contacting your ex until you have your confidence back. Typically, a good rule of thumb is that you shouldn't contact your ex until the day comes when you no longer feel the urge to contact her.
From here on out, you're going to work on your attitude. The attitude that works best when trying to attract your ex back or any woman, for that matter, is one of self-respect and indifference. You must prepare yourself and be willing to literally walk away at the first sign of disrespect coming from her. The moment you start to feel that she is laughing at you, belittling you or disrespecting you, you're going to leave the situation. You're not going to react or become angry. You're simply going to terminate communicating with her. This new found attitude will be seen in your actions, your words as well as how you carry yourself from here on out in life.
Along with this new attitude you need to put any thought out of your mind that concerns how she will react to your new attitude. It's going to be a little shocking for her, that's for sure. If she is accustomed to yelling at you or calling you names, she is accustomed to holding all the power in the relationship. If, in the past, you stood there and took this abuse or if you tried to argue with her or explain yourself, those days are through. From now on, you will remind her that she is not your partner, girlfriend or wife. She relinquished that title and the right to state her opinion about anything when she left you. You will turn and literally walk away from the conversation and take that power with you. She will do one of two things. She will either come after you immediately and apologize or she will think about what just happened for a while. She will then have gained some respect for you as a man and the process of falling in love with you will begin.
If you have been upset since your breakup there might be a chance that your ex has seen you cry. She might know that you're depressed about the breakup. In the future, you're not going to let your ex know anything about your life other than the fact that you are happy, loving life and ready to move on without her, if necessary. Without a word, you are rebuilding your life. You are happy and you have things that you want to do with your life as well as the strength to achieve these goals. Instead of holding onto that depressed personality and being sad about your breakup, you are happy with life and you're living life to the best of your ability.
Push aside any fear that you might have that your ex will be upset by your new persona. You may think that you need to be sad or depressed so your ex will know that you miss them. You might fear that being happy would somehow tell your ex that you don't love her anymore. You are not in control of what she thinks and it might be a good thing is she worries that you are moving on without her. If she wants to know, she can ask you. You have a life to live and you can't be expected to sit around like a hurt puppy waiting for her to come back into your life so you can live. Your world doesn't revolve around her anymore. Your world revolves around you and your dreams.
While you're waiting for your girlfriend or wife to come back to you, this is your time to shine. This is your time to not only rebuild your life but build the kind of life that you dream about. You have a choice. You can waste precious days, weeks or months being upset, sad and lonely or you can make plans for what you wish to accomplish with your life. Make a list of your dreams and goals. Think big and don't hold anything back. Your breakup might be the best thing that ever happened to you. You get a fresh start on life. Whether your girlfriend or wife wants to be a part of it is up to her but who wouldn't want to be a part of the life that you are creating?
Change your attitude and you can change your life. Change your attitude and you will begin to see changes in your ex. Push aside the fear of what your ex is going to think or do and start living your life for yourself. Make yourself happy and your ex will be drawn to you in a way that they may have never been attracted to you before. You are a man on a mission and it's up to you who enjoys this journey with you. Your ex should consider herself lucky that you still love her. She will understand one day soon. She will see the real you and want to come back to you. It could happen at any time so be prepared for her to come back when you least expect it.
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