The process of getting back together with your ex can often be emotional and filled with anguish. Sometimes no matter how hard you try or what you do, things become worse. While you might hope and pray that your ex comes back to you quickly, days turn into weeks and weeks turn into months as you turn your life upside down to convince your ex to fall in love with you again. Your friends and family encourage you to forget about your ex and move on with your life.
This piece of advice might be something that you should consider at least temporarily. Taking advantage of the time that you will be apart from your ex and allowing time to heal the wounds between you and your ex is solid advice. Many people spends weeks or months being upset and sad. You can take advantage of this time and kill two birds with one stone. By improving your life while you're apart from your ex you can become more attractive and you very well might wind up attracting your ex back more quickly than you realized.
Now, have you ever considered turning a passion or interest of yours into a business? Your ex very well might be shocked when they see what you have done with your life and a small business can improve your life in many ways. Your ex will have a new found respect for you and the prestige that goes along with being a business owner is very attractive. If money was a problem at any time during your relationship then a small business might remove that pressure and give you the freedom that you probably didn't have when you were together before.
Taking a step back and diving head first into a business might be just what you need right now. Your focus will no longer be on your ex, what they're doing, what you can do to get them back or what went wrong in the past. Your focus will be on building something wonderful that will serve you, your life and very well the life that you build with your ex in the future. You will also have an easier time understanding what went wrong in your relationship once your mind is no longer obsessing about your ex. In addition, if you had been putting a lot of pressure on your ex to get back together, focusing on something else, such as a business, will remove that pressure. You might be surprised by the changes in your ex once you back off and begin focusing on your own life for a change. Starting a small business is a great way to do that while achieving something that most people only dream of.
If you have ever had the dream of traveling or going on a vacation, now might be a good time to do that. Getting out of town for a week or an extended weekend would do you good and it would be less expensive now that you're single. Maybe you dreamed of going on a cruise or visiting a far away destination. Even if you lack the funds right now to go on that dream vacation, making plans, picking a destination and formulating a budget to achieve your goal is something that you can do. Then you will have something to look forward to in the near future.
When you do go on your vacation, make sure to take plenty of photos and post them to your social networking profiles. Your ex will see these and they will become a little jealous that your life is moving on without them. They will want to be a part of your life and do fun things with you again. While this might seem a little tricky, your ex was the one to leave you. You should not be expected to drop off the face of the planet or never do anything fun again. Your trip to Paris or Mexico could your way of grieving and making yourself feel better in the wake of your breakup, right?
Your overall aim should be to improve yourself and your life. Self-improvement means making yourself feel better about your life and your place in this world. Meditation, yoga, working out and improving your mind and the amount of happiness in your life is what self-improvement is all about. Reading, taking a few classes at your local collage or finding a new hobby such as kayaking or horseback riding are a few ways that you can add something interesting to your life and feel better about yourself.
The common advice that you may have been given that says that you should distract yourself and forget about getting your ex back might hold some truth. Of course, you would be forgetting about getting back together with your ex only temporarily and your goal would be to focus on things that will actually help you to win your ex back. A watched pot never boils and sitting there looking at the phone waiting for your ex to call you may drive you insane. Instead, focus on rebuilding your life and doing some of the things that you always dreamed of and your phone will be ringing before you know it. You very well might find that you are still in the midst of some of these life changing projects when your time alone is over and your ex comes back to you.
This piece of advice might be something that you should consider at least temporarily. Taking advantage of the time that you will be apart from your ex and allowing time to heal the wounds between you and your ex is solid advice. Many people spends weeks or months being upset and sad. You can take advantage of this time and kill two birds with one stone. By improving your life while you're apart from your ex you can become more attractive and you very well might wind up attracting your ex back more quickly than you realized.
Now, have you ever considered turning a passion or interest of yours into a business? Your ex very well might be shocked when they see what you have done with your life and a small business can improve your life in many ways. Your ex will have a new found respect for you and the prestige that goes along with being a business owner is very attractive. If money was a problem at any time during your relationship then a small business might remove that pressure and give you the freedom that you probably didn't have when you were together before.
Taking a step back and diving head first into a business might be just what you need right now. Your focus will no longer be on your ex, what they're doing, what you can do to get them back or what went wrong in the past. Your focus will be on building something wonderful that will serve you, your life and very well the life that you build with your ex in the future. You will also have an easier time understanding what went wrong in your relationship once your mind is no longer obsessing about your ex. In addition, if you had been putting a lot of pressure on your ex to get back together, focusing on something else, such as a business, will remove that pressure. You might be surprised by the changes in your ex once you back off and begin focusing on your own life for a change. Starting a small business is a great way to do that while achieving something that most people only dream of.
If you have ever had the dream of traveling or going on a vacation, now might be a good time to do that. Getting out of town for a week or an extended weekend would do you good and it would be less expensive now that you're single. Maybe you dreamed of going on a cruise or visiting a far away destination. Even if you lack the funds right now to go on that dream vacation, making plans, picking a destination and formulating a budget to achieve your goal is something that you can do. Then you will have something to look forward to in the near future.
When you do go on your vacation, make sure to take plenty of photos and post them to your social networking profiles. Your ex will see these and they will become a little jealous that your life is moving on without them. They will want to be a part of your life and do fun things with you again. While this might seem a little tricky, your ex was the one to leave you. You should not be expected to drop off the face of the planet or never do anything fun again. Your trip to Paris or Mexico could your way of grieving and making yourself feel better in the wake of your breakup, right?
Your overall aim should be to improve yourself and your life. Self-improvement means making yourself feel better about your life and your place in this world. Meditation, yoga, working out and improving your mind and the amount of happiness in your life is what self-improvement is all about. Reading, taking a few classes at your local collage or finding a new hobby such as kayaking or horseback riding are a few ways that you can add something interesting to your life and feel better about yourself.
The common advice that you may have been given that says that you should distract yourself and forget about getting your ex back might hold some truth. Of course, you would be forgetting about getting back together with your ex only temporarily and your goal would be to focus on things that will actually help you to win your ex back. A watched pot never boils and sitting there looking at the phone waiting for your ex to call you may drive you insane. Instead, focus on rebuilding your life and doing some of the things that you always dreamed of and your phone will be ringing before you know it. You very well might find that you are still in the midst of some of these life changing projects when your time alone is over and your ex comes back to you.
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